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Gabrielle Union On Feeling Guilt Over Infidelities In ‘Dysfunctional’ First Marriage: ‘I Was Horny For Validation’

<p><strong>Gabrielle Union <&sol;strong>is keeping it real about her growth&comma; especially in the areas of marriage&comma; infidelity&comma; and needing validation&period; That conversation happened with actor <strong>Dax Shepard <&sol;strong>on the first <a href&equals;"https&colon;&sol;&sol;armchairexpertpod&period;com&sol;pods&sol;gabrielle-union" target&equals;"&lowbar;blank" rel&equals;"noopener">2023 episode<&sol;a> of his podcast <em>Armchair Expert&period; <&sol;em><&sol;p>&NewLine;<p>More than halfway through the interview&comma; <a href&equals;"https&colon;&sol;&sol;dev&period;theshaderoom&period;com&sol;yo-husband-boosie-drags-dwyane-wade-into-gabrielle-union-clapback-after-she-said-he-keeps-penis-on-his-mind-in-old-interview&sol;" target&equals;"&lowbar;blank" rel&equals;"noopener">Gabrielle spoke<&sol;a> about her &&num;8216&semi;dysfunctional&&num;8217&semi; first marriage to <strong>Chris Howard<&sol;strong>&period; Here&&num;8217&semi;s what the actress said&period;<&sol;p>&NewLine;<p>Shepard and Union were discussing Gabrielle&&num;8217&semi;s experience filming <em>Bad Boys 2 <&sol;em>in Miami&period; She explained that it was a fun period of time and that co-stars <strong>Martin Lawrence<&sol;strong> and <strong>Will Smith<&sol;strong> made certain she was &&num;8220&semi;treated well&period;&&num;8221&semi;<&sol;p>&NewLine;<p>Gabby was in her early 30s and married to Howard&comma; but admitted she wasn&&num;8217&semi;t &&num;8220&semi;getting wife of the year awards&&num;8221&semi; during that time&period; Shepard followed up by explaining his dueling guilt and lack of it over some of his infidelities&period;<&sol;p>&NewLine;<p>Gabrielle responded&colon;<&sol;p>&NewLine;<blockquote><p>&&num;8216&semi;In our first marriage&comma; neither one of us felt like the marriage should get in the way of our dating&comma;&&num;8221&semi; Gabrielle said&period; &&num;8220&semi;A part of it was like keeping up with his activities&comma; like&comma; &&num;8216&semi;Oh&comma; that&&num;8217&semi;s what you&&num;8217&semi;re doing&quest; You&&num;8217&semi;re going to feel this one&period;&&num;8217&semi; And I just felt entitled to it as well I was paying all the bills&period; I was working my a&ast;&ast; off and I felt like that&&num;8217&semi;s what comes&comma; the spoils of riches and like my dad before me&comma; whoever has the most gets to do whatever the hell they want is what I thought&period; It was just dysfunctional from day one&period;&&num;8221&semi;<&sol;p><&sol;blockquote>&NewLine;<figure id&equals;"attachment&lowbar;107297" aria-describedby&equals;"caption-attachment-107297" style&equals;"width&colon; 1140px" class&equals;"wp-caption alignnone"><img class&equals;"wp-image-107297 size-full" src&equals;"https&colon;&sol;&sol;dev&period;theshaderoom&period;com&sol;wp-content&sol;uploads&sol;2023&sol;01&sol;GettyImages-450936485-scaled&period;jpg" alt&equals;"Gabrielle Union On Feeling Guilt Over Infidelities In 'Dysfunctional' First Marriage&colon; 'I Was Horny For Validation'" width&equals;"1140" height&equals;"783" &sol;><figcaption id&equals;"caption-attachment-107297" class&equals;"wp-caption-text"><strong><em>Gabrielle Union and husband Chris Howard during Bad Boys 2 Premiere After Party Sponsored By Sprite Remix at The Supper Club in New York&comma; New York&comma; United States&period; &lpar;Photo by Jim Spellman&sol;WireImage&rpar;<&sol;em><&sol;strong><&sol;figcaption><&sol;figure>&NewLine;<h3 style&equals;"text-align&colon; center&semi;"><strong>Gabrielle Union On Feeling Guilt Over Chris Howard Infidelities And Seeking Validation<&sol;strong><&sol;h3>&NewLine;<p>As the conversation continued&comma; Shepard and Union ping-ponged about their past experiences with cheating and feeling guilty&period; Union says she wishes she felt more&period;<&sol;p>&NewLine;<blockquote><p>&&num;8220&semi;I wish I had more guilt for some of that&period; I think&comma; it was just&comma; it was such a stupid relationship that should have never got out of the dating phase&period;&&num;8221&semi;<&sol;p><&sol;blockquote>&NewLine;<p>Gabrielle said she attended gifted therapy with Howard&period; During the first session&comma; the therapist allegedly told them she didn&&num;8217&semi;t know how they made it past dating&period; Additionally&comma; the therapist suggested they should look for a way to &&num;8220&semi;amicably dissolve&comma;&&num;8221&semi; Gabby said&period; Their therapist added that the former couple had &&num;8220&semi;not one thing in common&comma; no morals&comma; no values&comma;&&num;8221&semi; except other people&period;<&sol;p>&NewLine;<p>Shepard cracked a joke about them being horny for other people and having that in common&period;<&sol;p>&NewLine;<p>But Union said&colon;<&sol;p>&NewLine;<blockquote><p>&&num;8220&semi;I was horny for validation and having certain kinds of guys like me and want me&period; That made me feel like I was worthy and good and valuable and deserving&period;&&num;8221&semi;<&sol;p><&sol;blockquote>&NewLine;<p>As of Wednesday&comma; Howard hasn&&num;8217&semi;t responded to the new interview&period; However&comma; Gabby&&num;8217&semi;s reveals aren&&num;8217&semi;t all that new&&num;8211&semi;she&&num;8217&semi;s previously spoken about her frosty union to Howard in her 2017 memoir <em>We&&num;8217&semi;re Going To Need More Wine&period; <&sol;em>In the text&comma; the actress shared her uneasy feelings during their wedding ceremony in 2001&period;<&sol;p>&NewLine;<h3 style&equals;"text-align&colon; center&semi;"><strong>Gabrielle Union Says Men Can Be Big Groupies Too&colon; &&num;8216&semi;It Was A Trade&&num;8217&semi;<&sol;strong><&sol;h3>&NewLine;<p>Union admitted that &&num;8216&semi;in hindsight&&num;8217&semi; she absolutely needed something from the men she cheated with that she wasn&&num;8217&semi;t getting from herself or her marriage&period;<&sol;p>&NewLine;<p>But she says the men also benefitted&period; Adding that&comma; <strong><em>&&num;8220&semi;guys can be just as big of groupies&comma; if not more&comma; than women&comma; so it was a trade-off&period;&&num;8221&semi; <&sol;em><&sol;strong><&sol;p>&NewLine;<p>On the topic of seeking validation&comma; the actress added it takes so much time and energy to be a cheater&period;<&sol;p>&NewLine;<blockquote><p>&&num;8220&semi;I don&&num;8217&semi;t move through the world in the same way&comma; but I also recognize that hurt people hurt people and hurt people seek out other hurt people&comma;&&num;8221&semi; Union said&period;<&sol;p>&NewLine;<p>&nbsp&semi;<&sol;p><&sol;blockquote>&NewLine;<p>That lifestyle is now far in Gabby&&num;8217&semi;s rearview mirror&period; 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