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<p>A woman recently shared a three-part video in which she detailed how a social media-based red flag led her to end her one-year <a href="https://dev.theshaderoom.com/aoki-lee-simmons-shuts-down-backlash-surrounding-her-interracial-relationship-its-genuinely-so-awful/" target="_blank" rel="noopener">relationship</a>.</p>
<h3 style="text-align: center;">The Man Refused To Be Shown Off</h3>
<p>A user going by <a href="https://www.tiktok.com/@itscarlitav" target="_blank" rel="noopener">@itscarlitav</a> on TikTok brought the matter to public attention, and she started off by sharing that the root of the issue was that her boyfriend of one year didn&#8217;t want her to post him online.</p>
<blockquote><p>&#8220;My boyfriend told me that I could not post a picture of him. We&#8217;ve been together for a year, and he told me that I am not allowed to post a picture of him.&#8221;</p></blockquote>
<p>She added, &#8220;He made it clear in the beginning of our relationship that he did not want to post me until we were engaged, but never did he tell me that I am not allowed to post a picture of him.&#8221;</p>
<blockquote><p>&#8220;So I&#8217;m not allowed to post a picture of my boyfriend that I&#8217;ve been with for an entire year. Does anyone know why I wouldn&#8217;t be able to do that? He says that he&#8217;s private, that he doesn&#8217;t need people to know about our relationship&#8230;But why else wouldn&#8217;t I be able to post a picture of my own boyfriend? Does anyone know? Does anyone have a clue?&#8221;</p></blockquote>
<p>At this point, Carlita tells it like it is and says that she hopes anyone else who may be involved with the man in question becomes aware of his antics.</p>
<blockquote><p>&#8220;I hope this reaches the right audience, and I hope we find her. Or the many of them that could be out there.&#8221;</p></blockquote>
<p>She then proceeds to share a picture of her and the man, whom she identifies as &#8220;Derwin.&#8221; Additionally, she says that she ultimately decided to leave him, as he was simply acting way too fishy.</p>
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<h3 style="text-align: center;">Carlita Details How Her Suspicions Grew</h3>
<p>In a follow-up post, Carlita told viewers, &#8220;It was very hard to walk away, but I am proud of myself for leaving because I know I deserve better.&#8221;</p>
<p>She also detailed some of the specifics to the story, noting that all began after he protested against her soft-launching him 10 months into the relationship.</p>
<blockquote><p>&#8220;It started when I was going to post a picture of the back of his head.&#8221;</p></blockquote>
<p>Carlita then shared that, in a TikTok that showed off her 2022 travels, she included a photo of him with a sticker over his face. However, he took issue with this as well because &#8220;people could identify hum through his tattoos.&#8221; Carlita also revealed that this was the moment when she began to give the situation the side-eye.</p>
<blockquote><p>&#8220;That hurt me a lot&#8230;at that point I started to think that something was going on. That he was cheating on me or that he was in witness protection or I don&#8217;t know. No idea.&#8221;</p></blockquote>
<p>Notably, she pointed out that she would&#8217;ve been satisfied with simply posting his face on her Instagram Story. In spite of this, though, &#8220;He would not let [her] post his face for 24 hours.&#8221;</p>
<p>Once his antics carried over to their one-year anniversary, she called it quits for the sake of her own happiness.</p>
<blockquote><p>&#8220;I walked away for myself&#8230;I walked away because my happiness wasn&#8217;t a priority to him.&#8221;</p></blockquote>
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<h3 style="text-align: center;">He Was In A Whole Other Relationship The Whole Time</h3>
<p>Finally, in the third part of her story-time upload, she revealed that she discovered that he had allegedly been dating another woman &#8220;for two years.&#8221;</p>
<blockquote><p>&#8220;He had a girlfriend for two years, allegedly&#8230;Our dating paths were very very similar. The things that my ex would tell her, he was telling me the exact same thing.&#8221;</p></blockquote>
<p>She added, &#8220;It is very hard to hear that both of us were on this exact same path toward marriage with the same person.&#8221;</p>
<p>Additionally, Carlita was sure to point out that, while she&#8217;s still &#8220;processing&#8221; the situation, her &#8220;mental health is stable.&#8221;</p>
<blockquote><p>&#8220;I actually feel way better than I thought I would.&#8221;</p></blockquote>
<p>The TikToker ended by noting that, while it&#8217;s hard, it&#8217;s important to put yourself first.</p>
<blockquote><p>&#8220;Walking away was so hard, but you have to do it&#8230;Don&#8217;t wait to leave. Leave now.&#8221;</p></blockquote>
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<p>What do you think about the overall situation, and how would you have handled it?</p>
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