Aside from those who aren’t quite ready to let a Netflix & Chill-filled summer go, those of us excited for the fall/winter months are gearing up for cuffing season!
Yes, we’ve been peeping bae all summer and now that fall’s here with winter on the way, it’s time to pounce! Besides, what’s better than having absolutely nothing but your boo keep you warm?! Think of all the cute things you can do together– Matching Halloween costumes, attending homecoming festivities, romantic football tailgates… Don’t even get me started on how sexy your man will look during No-Shave November–it’s more titillating than Victoria’s Secret semi-annual sales for us ladies and guys!
To help you all keep your sanity throughout these next few months of butterflies and heart palpitations, I’ve put together a list of rules to go by in order to have a successful and healthy cuffing season!
1.) Make sure you’re ready.
It is so important that you’re emotionally secure enough to take on another person’s emotions. It can be very challenging when you care for someone, so before starting any new relationships, make sure that you are up for the challenge and open-minded to new things.
2.) Be up-front about what you want.
Closed mouths never get fed, boo. On the flip side, I’ve seen one-a-many fuckboys use this to their advantage, oftentimes resulting in failed expectations and crushed feelings by the other party. Please avoid this and do yourself a favor by explicitly stating what you expect from your significant other and what you don’t. Ain’t nobody got time for fuckboys now!
3.) Set Boundaries.
Yes means yes and no means no! Set boundaries for what you will and will not accept from bae to prevent resentment or ill-feelings from festering. This will only create problems later. Communication is very important here.
4.) Don’t Press.
Don’t rush and turn your new relationship saccharine before you’ve even taken a moment to enjoy what you’ve got now. Mama ain’t raise no Pressed Patty! Anything good cannot survive without a foundation, especially nowadays, kids. Take your time to get to know your S.O. and hope that you still like them enough to turn your cuffing season into a year-long event. We also don’t need you to become that crazy boyfriend or girlfriend…..
5.) Recognize signs early (if there are any).
We can become overwhelmed by our emotions after finding someone that we really like, but it can blind your perception of who someone really is. There may be indications that someone isn’t such a great fit for you, so be safe and leave if you feel that something isn’t right. Your intuition never serves you wrong!
6.) Get physical.
I mean, bae isn’t fine for nothing! You obviously have good taste, so go enjoy them! You can probably save money, too, by switching to magnums/trojans with all that body heat you’ll be exchanging.
7.) Have fun!
Be available for your boo! There are so many things you’ll want to do in spite of the single people who can’t, so own that. Rub it in all the single ladies faces. Whoa-oh-ohh!
Whoever you choose to be your winter love interest should definitely be attractive, down to cuddle 24/7 and someone who really makes an effort towards making you happy everyday. Remember, roommates, only date someone at your consent and choose someone that has your best interests at heart! Also, in my opinion, if you can make it through fall, then that should be a good indication of whether or not your relationship has some potential. In the words of Kanye West, “And hey, ayo, we made it to Thanksgiving. So hey, maybe we can make it to Christmas!” Happy Fall, y’all!
TSR Intern: Talia O. @theclosetratchet on Instagram & @tallyohhh on Twitter!
