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<p><strong>Ne-Yo</strong> and <strong>Crystal Smith</strong> recently renewed their wedding vows after filing for divorce two years ago and he spoke with us and shared what made them reconsider a divorce.</p>
<p>We caught up with the R&;B crooner during Essence Festival in New Orleans, and he said effective listening is what saved their marriage.</p>
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<p>While speaking to The Shade Room, Ne-Yo said communication is important, but you can&#8217;t communicate effectively without listening to how your partner is feeling, even if it is hard to do.</p>
<blockquote><p>What is communication if I don&#8217;t understand what the hell you&#8217;re saying? If you don&#8217;t understand what I&#8217;m saying?</p></blockquote>
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<p>He continued to say:</p>
<blockquote><p>We can talk all day long but if it ain&#8217;t computing we&#8217;re wasting each other&#8217;s time. What we had to do is sit down and learn to listen to each other. Not wait for your turn to talk but really listen. Somebody says something and you&#8217;re triggered and you just jump in&#8230; not interrupting.</p></blockquote>
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<p>Ne-Yo also added:</p>
<blockquote><p>It&#8217;s not easy to hear somebody tell you things about yourself. None of these things are easy but at the end of the day it helped.</p></blockquote>
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<p>As previously reported, Ne-Yo and Crystal filed for divorce in 2020 but Ne-Yo later withdrew his request a few months later.</p>
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<p> In an Instagram post, fans learned that the two were spending time during quarantine and were working on things.</p>
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<p> Love wins!</p>
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